Don't leave a voicemail, seriously.

This argument always reminds me of The Real World because there was a huge fight that Kevin (a black man) and Julie (a white woman) had the first season where he was saying black people can't be racist against white people, and Julie was like THAT MAKES NO SENSE! And it was the exact disconnect that ALWAYS happens in this argument every single time. At the time I sided with her. And then I had my first women's studies class (several years later!) where the distinction between racism and prejudice was laid out so clearly, and my very first reaction was THIS IS WHAT KEVIN WAS TALKING ABOUT! HE WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG! It was a huge revelation for me, and it was completely filtered through The Real World. That is so sad. But anyway. My point is- I don't really have one REALLY, but I will make one up now. I feel like it's really not that hard of a concept to understand if you're just willing to hear what's ACTUALLY being said, to take a second to understand how the words are being defined instead of falling into that knee-jerk defensiveness. But I don't think I've ever seen that happen.