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syncope at 09:58am on 25/04/2009
syncope at 09:58am on 25/04/2009There was like a cluster bomb of what I think of as stalkerish behavior on my lj fl this morning. Here I am trying to pour coffee down my gullet so I can spend a day of grumbling over summer clothes buying and forced family togetherness and BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM! WHOOOOOOOSH! like five posts or so displaying casual stalking behavior that people clearly find to be ok enough to post about on their lj with NO CAVEAT or anything saying "I know this is a tad...ott...but I have mental health issues..." or SOMETHING.
I know this is a rather permeable filter, what people think is normal and ok and what they don't. I have a whole list of things that bother me. Acquiring information about people's family/friends/grade school activities and all that really bothers me, for example.
My opinions on this are probably colored by my feelings in general about invasive behavior--for example I find it strongly morally wrong to read other people's mail (were you raised by the Stasi, this is not ok!), email, text messages, or to listen to their voicemail or anything of this nature. For some reason people think there are exceptions to the wrongness of these acts--such as when you suspect your SO is cheating--um, no, you were always someone who would read someone's email, you just took that chance because you had an excuse. If you can't just say, "Dude, are you fucking her?" and expect a truthful answer, break the fuck up. Or have an open relationship, whatever, but don't sneak around committing acts of espionage. This is a girl culture thing that I just don't get--I know chicks who do these things together, like you get a wingman to read the emails/listen the voicemails. ???
At any rate, internet stalking is on my list of no-nos. As are many other things. I wonder if I have hit some kind of wall on this where I'm going to have disengage. That will be too bad since I need to finish my fake!Misha story (but his fans are some of the worst--woe).
I know this is a rather permeable filter, what people think is normal and ok and what they don't. I have a whole list of things that bother me. Acquiring information about people's family/friends/grade school activities and all that really bothers me, for example.
My opinions on this are probably colored by my feelings in general about invasive behavior--for example I find it strongly morally wrong to read other people's mail (were you raised by the Stasi, this is not ok!), email, text messages, or to listen to their voicemail or anything of this nature. For some reason people think there are exceptions to the wrongness of these acts--such as when you suspect your SO is cheating--um, no, you were always someone who would read someone's email, you just took that chance because you had an excuse. If you can't just say, "Dude, are you fucking her?" and expect a truthful answer, break the fuck up. Or have an open relationship, whatever, but don't sneak around committing acts of espionage. This is a girl culture thing that I just don't get--I know chicks who do these things together, like you get a wingman to read the emails/listen the voicemails. ???
At any rate, internet stalking is on my list of no-nos. As are many other things. I wonder if I have hit some kind of wall on this where I'm going to have disengage. That will be too bad since I need to finish my fake!Misha story (but his fans are some of the worst--woe).
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